There is a wonderful lady who had taken me out of a bad situation and helped me immensely, and is like the Mother I never had. She is in my life almost every day in some small form. She is a Non-Vegan and I have tried to tell her I am Vegan but whenever she visits she leaves dinners she's made and food she's bought covered in cheese or with dairy ingredients or egg products. I'm a very vocal Vegan and I feel like she's doing it to pressure me out of it and to hide dissatisfaction with my decision in her 'generosity' of feeding me. I am always extremely grateful for her care but I don't know how to approach it. I'm a hypocrite in her eyes if I waste the food. If I throw it away without saying that I have discarded it I feel like she'll assume I'm eating it, which I don't want but I also don't want to insult her as she would say it's kindness on her part. How can I talk to her about this in an effective and kind way? I've already given her detailed reasons as to why I'm Vegan and am constantly reminding her. I just feel like it's a passive aggressive statement to say that she doesn't believe I won't give in so that her ego can get relief for her guilt over eating non-vegan food by me eating what she sneaks into my house. I feel pent up about it because I feel it's disingenuous, even though I know in every other way she is so generous and kind. I get the impression that she wants to hold it over my head as something to tell people publicly if I say I don't want something because of it's immorality. I am very serious that it's not going to happen and it's just making me sad because I love her so much and that it's just mean what she is doing .