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Workplace bullying

Discussion in 'Support' started by Marta, Aug 15, 2018.

  1. Marta

    Marta New Member

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    Hi All,

    I'm new to this forum and looking for some help, even if that might be a link to a relevant post. My bosses often tease me about being vegan and it makes really uncomfortable. This Friday, they are taking everyone out to dinner at a steak house and the jokes have already begun. There is another vegetarian co-worker and two Indian co-workers who will not be eating steak. I'm over worked and exhausted and I don't feel like dealing with the jokes (guessing they are just insecure about their own eating habits?). Any suggestions on how to handle ignorant authority figures? Do I feign illness and skip this dinner?
     
  2. Lou
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    Since I don't know your company, the climate or the individuals, you will have to judge the following piece of advice for its appropriateness in your specific situation.

    My advice (since you asked for it) would be to get you the vegetarians and the Indians to meet with the bosses. This could be done at the next staff meeting. Preferably not in front of all the staff but maybe just after the meeting. You might want to discuss what is to be said beforehand. But be sure to use the words "workplace harassment", "bullying", "mobbing", and " emotional abuse", in your statement. Maybe even a few times.

    If you don't think the bosses will get it, you might want to type up a letter and have everyone sign it. Deliver it to the bosses and if you have a HR dept, cc them a copy.

    Maybe these guys are just idiots and can't tell the difference between teasing and bullying. One would think that in 2018 people would have had enough training to know that it's a thin line. but I have seen so many news stories of employers being even more ignorant. I've also seen a few stories where the HR department is complicit.

    I think you would be best off skipping the dinner.

    In preparation for the confrontation, you might want to read this
    https://www.mediate.com/articles/davenport.cfm
     
  3. Veganite
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    Hello Marta, and welcome to the forum!

    I find this disgusting. It is nothing short of workplace harassment. A considerate company would be a lot more accommodating. If in your shoes I would, without a doubt, be skipping dinner.

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    On every comment or joke from their side i would just ask something like " Why my life style of respecting everyone's right to live is bothering you so much? im not even talking to you about it in first place " or i usually go with responding " i know im weird, who in their right mind would not want to ear animal corpses right? dont worry maybe one day ill be back to corpse-munching like rest of you " usually shuts ppl up, and tbh i dont care if they get offended (by what? me defending coz they attacked me first? ) , i mean, its not vegans who suppose to be apologetic for their views, our views dont harm anyone, their does harm millions of lives. I have lunchbox that i take to work with one of my stickers saying "meat is rotting animal corpse", i know it bothers ppl but my goal is to plant that seed in their mind, same seed that in past was planted and opened my eyes some time later.
     
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