After the debacle that resulted from my recent in-joke thread, I feel like I should try to address this one topic just to make clear what my perspective is.
VV is first and foremost intended to be a community. Over time people in a community get to know each other, they develop trust and relationships. They're not just random strangers who argue about random topics on a random, nameless Internet forum. Members of a community may not agree on everything, and yet they behave in a civilized manner towards each other. They tolerate and accept differences of opinion, as long as they all share certain fundamental norms and values.
So in this thread it was said that at least one certain VV member was discussing other VV members and their posts on another board, a private website, essentially "behind our backs". I don't know the exact details of what was being discussed, but knowing a little about the nature of said other board, I can only imagine discussions of the type "hey, if you go back to that thread on VV and say blah-blah-blah, I bet she'll get really angry, hahaha!" and "yeah, she's a real **********" and "he's totally *****" and "she's so full of ****, just see how she conveniently neglected to address blah-blah-blah in post #1873, you should totally bring that up in the thread!". Well, that is as far as my imagination goes, and it's not so nice. This kind of behaviour is harmful to a community as it undermines the trust between members.
Of course, there is something to be said for venting in a private conversation to a person you trust and who can keep it private. However, the above scenario that involved "venting" to a whole Internet board is different. Stories eventually made it back here, as should be expected when it wasn't a truly private conversation.
I don't believe in going around policing what VV members say outside of VV. In fact once you feel you have to do that, the community ideal about trust between members etc. has gone out the window. All I will say is, let's try and behave like civilized and mature people, and if that is too hard, then maybe VV isn't for you. Also this
. And I hope we won't have to waste much more time and energy on this matter. Let's try to move on.
VV is first and foremost intended to be a community. Over time people in a community get to know each other, they develop trust and relationships. They're not just random strangers who argue about random topics on a random, nameless Internet forum. Members of a community may not agree on everything, and yet they behave in a civilized manner towards each other. They tolerate and accept differences of opinion, as long as they all share certain fundamental norms and values.
So in this thread it was said that at least one certain VV member was discussing other VV members and their posts on another board, a private website, essentially "behind our backs". I don't know the exact details of what was being discussed, but knowing a little about the nature of said other board, I can only imagine discussions of the type "hey, if you go back to that thread on VV and say blah-blah-blah, I bet she'll get really angry, hahaha!" and "yeah, she's a real **********" and "he's totally *****" and "she's so full of ****, just see how she conveniently neglected to address blah-blah-blah in post #1873, you should totally bring that up in the thread!". Well, that is as far as my imagination goes, and it's not so nice. This kind of behaviour is harmful to a community as it undermines the trust between members.
Of course, there is something to be said for venting in a private conversation to a person you trust and who can keep it private. However, the above scenario that involved "venting" to a whole Internet board is different. Stories eventually made it back here, as should be expected when it wasn't a truly private conversation.
I don't believe in going around policing what VV members say outside of VV. In fact once you feel you have to do that, the community ideal about trust between members etc. has gone out the window. All I will say is, let's try and behave like civilized and mature people, and if that is too hard, then maybe VV isn't for you. Also this
. And I hope we won't have to waste much more time and energy on this matter. Let's try to move on.
