Unpopular Opinions Society

[Dropkick]

Someone looks good, they let you sleep with them and sex feels good.

That's lust, not love.

My unpopular opinion: Love is just a chemical state created by the brain, developed through the process of natural selection with the sole intent of causing organisms to mate with each other in order to increase the rate of survival by playing off their instinct and emotions at the same time. Of course, this doesn't make it any less legitimate, it just gives it an explanation. It annoys me to see the supernatural quality that people sometimes apply to it.

^^And what about me and the other weirdo people who fall in love but have no wish to procreate?

I'm one of those weirdo people, too. I'm still trying to figure it out.

The best I can come up with is chemical imbalances, but there are probably scientists out there who have tracked it down to the specific gene.

If it's tied to procreation then why do I I love my dog, my parents, my relatives, a few unrelated children, etc?




Romantic love is wanting to be with someone.
True love is when that person's happiness and well being is more important to you than your own.

 

[Blobbenstein]

my unpopular opinion,with some, is that science without some faith, and trust, in intuitions, is lame.

 

[Queerasaurus Rex]

I personally feel like 'being in love' doesn't and can't really have a set meaning, because the only one who knows if someone is in love is that person themselves. I think it feels different for everyone; one person's feeling of lust may be another's feeling of romantically loving someone/being in love. And I think the details and more individual feelings (such as wanting to be with someone the rest of your life or not and the type of relationship you have with them and things like that) of romantically loving someone/being in love are different for everyone.

 

[led.boots]

But if you just want to cuddle with them and have no interest in attempting any sort of strange contact involving the exchange of fluids and/or pathetically unintelligent microscopic creatures that exist to do nothing but swim, bump around into things, and die? And, if said beliefs pit you against the established criteria of common instincts in the animal kingdom?

Then that's okay. And not rare. Our society puts a huge emphasis on sex, and makes it look as if everyone is constantly having sex or planning it every second of the day. I guess because our needs for food, safety, sleep, etc, are relatively easy to meet in today's western world, sex becomes the obsession.
I've been in love with the same man for over 30 years. Does the love feel the same as it did in March of 1980? No, it is way better, but different. We've lived our lives together, as a team, been through the dating days, marriage, the joy of births, the sadness of deaths, serious injury and illness. The spooning is way more important than the forking, in the long run. Whatever happens, I know that as long as we are both alive, he will have my back and I his.

 

[Marie]

Cuddling for more than 5 minutes is annoying.

 

[Moll Flanders]

Cuddling for more than 5 minutes is annoying.

I don't mind cuddling if I'm feeling cold which is probably similar to when my cats keep trying to jump up on my lap in the winter.

Cuddling after sex is annoying to me too.

 

[kazyeeqen]

My unpopular opinion: Love is just a chemical state created by the brain, developed through the process of natural selection with the sole intent of causing organisms to mate with each other in order to increase the rate of survival by playing off their instinct and emotions at the same time. Of course, this doesn't make it any less legitimate, it just gives it an explanation. It annoys me to see the supernatural quality that people sometimes apply to it.

There is also familial love.

Everything we think and feel was developed through natural selection.

 

[AspireToExpire]

That's lust, not love.

I'm a perv, what can I say? I am not feeling particularly romantic as of late so I thought the truth ought to be nice. Why is it so unheard of to be in love/lust with the same person?

 

[kazyeeqen]

I'm a perv, what can I say? I am not feeling particularly romantic as of late so I thought the truth ought to be nice. Why is it so unheard of to be in love/lust with the same person?

Because people are putting all that magic 42 was talking about on love.

 

[FortyTwo]

There is also familial love.

Everything we think and feel was developed through natural selection.

Yeah, that's different. I should have been more specific, sorry. That's what happens when I try to go posting in the middle of the night, I end up expressing little things wrong and coming out with incomplete thoughts.

Familial love is simply an emotional connection, and plays off our emotional nature.

 

[kazyeeqen]

Yeah, that's different. I should have been more specific, sorry. That's what happens when I try to go posting in the middle of the night, I end up expressing little things wrong and coming out with incomplete thoughts.

Familial love is simply an emotional connection, and plays off our emotional nature.

It is different, but I'd they are both emotional connections developed because they better passed on the genes.

I don't know what it means to play off our emotional nature.

 

[AspireToExpire]

I can make sexual innuendos about pretty much anything.

 

[Envy]

I can make sexual innuendos about pretty much anything.

That ain't unpopular.

 

[AspireToExpire]

That ain't unpopular.

Your face ain't unpopular!

 

[FortyTwo]

It is different, but I'd they are both emotional connections developed because they better passed on the genes.

I don't know what it means to play off our emotional nature.

Love (as in, sexual/romantic attraction) is an emotional connection that plays off our instinctual nature.

By emotional nature, I meant our capacity to feel emotions and to develop strong connections, nothing more.

 

[Blobbenstein]

health and safety=everyone in my block of flats has to be woken up at midnight because someone wants some toast.

I think H&S says a lot about a species.

 

[Freesia]

They could have at least made toast for everyone.

 

[uno]

Cuddling for more than 5 minutes is annoying.

Spoken like a true dude.

I've always wondered why so many woman (particularly in the veg world) consider themselves to be so empathetic/emotional/caring etc. and
a. mostly like rough and tumble sex
b. don't like things like cuddling.


i'm a lost man as i like the opposites of both of those very much...

 

[FortyTwo]

Oh God I hope that, when I eventually do find a boyfriend, he likes to cuddle. I thought that liking that was a shared thing but I guess it's unpopular. Maybe that's what all of my unspent sexual attraction is converted into? Because I have no desire for that but I have a ridiculous need to cuddle.

 

[Envy]

Only weirdos don't like cuddling.