No, it's not irrelevant, the bomb still goes off in both points of view. They still see events unfold, they're not somehow set apart completely. What it shows is that simultaneity is based on perspective.
To put it another way, whether the bomb is moving or not, it's programmed to explode when certain conditions are met and should be explainable regardless of the point of view. This is entirely explainable whether the bomb is moving or not. It's actually rather elegant and counter intuitive. Well for me.
To relate it back to my original point, you can't simply disregard a perspective because you want to, not unlike the case with the black hole. The perspectives must be explainable or one arrives at a paradox (or an apparent one). You cannot simply will away one as irrelevant.
Clearly.
Perhaps for distant observers they never see a black hole, but for those falling in, a black hole exists.