I have no idea what dating sites are like but I think a lot of people are more direct online than they would be in real life and you get some cowards who would say very horrible things online because they feel protected by anonymity. It's a bit like when people are at a football match, they shout offensive things when they are in a crowd but they would be too scared to ever say if they were standing on their own.
Sick dudes or a sick society?
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I have no idea what dating sites are like but I think a lot of people are more direct online than they would be in real life and you get some cowards who would say very horrible things online because they feel protected by anonymity. It's a bit like when people are at a football match, they shout offensive things when they are in a crowd but they would be too scared to ever say if they were standing on their own.
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So are these just normal guys that somehow transform into disturbing, sleazy ghouls just because they can hide behind a pseudonym? Or are they guys that already have personality issues, that take advantage of the anonymity of these sites?
I meant the way some people act online in general, not just in this case. I have no idea if these men are "normal" whatever that means, but they are obviously sexist/misogynist to make comments like that to a woman online. Some men see women as sexual objects to be looked at and used sexually. I don't think it is all down to the influence of society as that is taking away personal responsibility but I imagine their parents made some big mistakes to churn out men who act that way. I think kids should be taught that women and men are equal and that certain behaviour is unacceptable.
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It's how they work.
1. Message a lot of people.
2. If you get rejected, protect your ego by making it their problem.
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Yes that's my understanding from my time on dating sites das.
There were men on there who contacted anybody and everybody who came on the site. First couple of messages were polite asking well rehearsed " bait" questions and then he posed the question " do you fancy coming over to my house for a "f***
When they came back with an indignant reply he was abusive and then deleted them. But he was on a fair bet that even if99% said no, at least one might say yes.
And in fact one I know at least did , finding his direct approach exciting and challenging. It was my mate. She drove miles in the dark to a small village in the middle of nowhere( despite all our begging for her not to) and had several hours of sex, with this smooth operator, after which he sent her home in the dark in the middle of the night, making some excuse why she could not stay. Worse still..she was offended that he never emailed again!
Sordid, awful stuff but.. If their strategy works and just one woman responds to it why wouldn't they keep doing it?
I'd go for the latter. I dont think *every* man is a sleazeball however the ones who have sleazy tendencies would jump at the chance.
I have tried online dating before and hate it. It was pretty much what this thread describes. I actually once got followed down the road by a stranger who'd seen my profile and then got some creepy messages about it. I got so many messages either just asking for sex or asking me to flash on webcam. I ignored it trying to weed out the good guys, until that following incident then never logged on to that site again.
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I have never tried it before but I have experienced this sort of thing on the internet when just being friendly with a guy and thinking they were my friend and finding they started pursuing me, persistently, even when I ask them to stop. I find men are of value when they are happy to be friends and dont expect anything out of the friendship or have ulterior motives.
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I could draw a picture of myself using MS paint in case someone is curious about what I look like. I dont generaly post pics either.
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I keep thinking people are gonna start calling me Blobbenstein in real life, if someone recognises me from the picture thread. That would be a shock. But I'm a big fat bloke rather than a cute woman, so I think I don't have to worry about stalkers.
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Well I was quite distinctive at the time, I had neon pink hair but yeah it put me riiiight off. I refuse to go near Tinder becuase it uses your Facebook pictures and shows if you have Facebook friends in common. My friend uses it, and she saw (for example) "Ben" had our mate Shannon in common. 2 seconds of searching for all the Bens in Shannon's friend list she found his surname and could see the details he hadn't hidden. NO THANKS. She also had a lot of men sending her cock pictures and was shocked. Not sure what she expected from a free app?? I think a lot of men see free dating as just a hookup. If you want serious dating join a paid site like match (but theyre silly money).
