I have no problem with giving preference to the victims of aggressors, even when the aggressors were my own people. Aggressors should suffer consequences from their aggression.
Even if you consider civilians who supported the warfare that was done as aggressors, that still leaves a bit of people who will suffer because people above them made the decisions that led to all of that.
As far as the ban on care packages to Germany (I think that's what you are referring to with your reference to "aid that otherwise probably would not have been given anyone else"?), how much of a difference do you think private aid packages would have made if the food shortage was as dire as RF1 would like to believe?
It's not as much what difference it would have been made as it is about principles.