Do you believe in spanking as a form of discipline?

[Francesca_Bee]

I just happened to be on here so had to share....... and holy moly you should see the double rainbow right outside my window.

 

[mlp]

I like to see that people are responding without actually reading my posts. I said I have no interest in carrying on the discussion.

I read your post. I understand the desire to want to have the last word, I truly do, but sometimes you have to make a choice between having the last word and simply not posting in a thread anymore if you don't want to post in the thread.

 

[mlp]

I just happened to be on here so had to share....... and holy moly you should see the double rainbow right outside my window.

Cool! I haven't seen a double rainbow since I was young.

 

[Pickle Juice]

I read your post. I understand the desire to want to have the last word, I truly do, but sometimes you have to make a choice between having the last word and simply not posting in a thread anymore if you don't want to post in the thread.

That's always what I would do. I'd say whatever I had left to say, and then I wouldn't even read the thread anymore. I have no idea what impression that might have given people who quoted me after I promised myself I was done. It was easier at TFTSNBN though because we didn't get alerts whenever people quoted us.

 

[Lord Snot]

If someone says they want to leave a discussion, especially in the case where things are getting heated and replies are more about the poster than the content, I think that should be respected. You can't accuse someone of wanting to have the last word whilst quoting them, which will alert them back to the thread they want to leave...

 

[AspireToExpire]

Yet you continue to read along and post.
You pose questions and expect not a response.
You had entered your post around the same time we were typing ours.

You understand the confusion?

However, you can't expect not to be quoted once having joined a discussion. People are on different time zones and respond sooner or later than others might. If you don't want to be quoted or receive responses, perhaps deleting is your best option.

 

[mlp]

If someone says they want to leave a discussion, especially in the case where things are getting heated and replies are more about the poster than the content, I think that should be respected. You can't accuse someone of wanting to have the last word whilst quoting them, which will alert them back to the thread they want to leave...

Well, neither Digger nor I used the quote function, so there was no alert.

 

[Lord Snot]

Is it really necessary to carry on directly quoting/addressing users you disagree with?

If everyone goes back to posting as Pickle Juice *just* recommended, this drama can be done with. Let's just get back to the debate topic instead of picking on each other.

 

[AspireToExpire]

I quoted her. Jeez Louise!

 

[Lord Snot]

How about we discuss:

What do you think are the most effective methods of discipline? Do you try to use a consistent method and only resort to others if your 'favourite' fails? Is spanking a part of your normal discipline or would you only use it in extreme cases?

 

[Muggle]

. Hurting people's feelings is not, and it should be sufficient if someone says that their feelings are hurt by another's comments, for that person to stop making those comments.

I'm hut by the fact that people won't see that hitting children is abuse considering that I was hit as a child and it's horrible and hurtful to see people saying that it's fine.

I also hurt by the accusation that I am "selfish, self absorbed and unempathetic" and that it was said in another thread even though future posts made it clear it was about me(and two other posters) and this thread.
But I can't report it as a personal attack or whatever because that specific post doesn't actually name me...

Whatever. Child abuse is child abuse at the end of day and if people are getting offended by that then they need to look at their own guilty conscience.

 

[Digger]

Wait.. what? I was on another forum for a few minutes and need to backread here to understand what's going on?

By the way, how is everyone doing today?

 

[Lord Snot]

Wait.. what? I was on another forum for a few minutes and need to backread here to understand what's going on?

By the way, how is everyone doing today?

To summarise the last few pages:

I'm well thanks, you?

 

[Digger]

I'm doing very well, thank you LS.

 

[mlp]

Well, since we're not supposed to address what anyone who no longer wants to post in this thread has said, and since I shared my own personal experience at/near the beginning of this thread, I don't think there's anything left for me to say.

Is this going to be a general rule - that if anyone says "I don't want to post in this thread again", we are not to address anything that the poster has said in the thread? It sounds like a verbal form of musical chairs - the first one who says "I'm outta here" automatically gets the last word.

 

[uno]

Well, since we're not supposed to address what anyone who no longer wants to post in this thread has said, and since I shared my own personal experience at/near the beginning of this thread, I don't think there's anything left for me to say.

Is this going to be a general rule - that if anyone says "I don't want to post in this thread again", we are not to address anything that the poster has said in the thread? It sounds like a verbal form of musical chairs - the first one who says "I'm outta here" automatically gets the last word.

Nice.

 

[Pickle Juice]

I'm hut by the fact that people won't see that hitting children is abuse considering that I was hit as a child and it's horrible and hurtful to see people saying that it's fine.

I also hurt by the accusation that I am "selfish, self absorbed and unempathetic" and that it was said in another thread even though future posts made it clear it was about me(and two other posters) and this thread.
But I can't report it as a personal attack or whatever because that specific post doesn't actually name me...

Whatever. Child abuse is child abuse at the end of day and if people are getting offended by that then they need to look at their own guilty conscience.

You can report any post you feel is problematic Annia. I think in cases like this people are going to have to agree to disagree, and hopefully to do that without resorting to either direct insults or passive aggression. My personal rule is to leave any thread I feel that I am getting emotional about, in a negative way. On occasion I feel strongly enough that I fail to obey that rule, but for the most part it keeps me happy.

 

[uno]

How about we discuss:

What do you think are the most effective methods of discipline? Do you try to use a consistent method and only resort to others if your 'favourite' fails? Is spanking a part of your normal discipline or would you only use it in extreme cases?

This is fun because i'm the biggest pro fighter here, yet i haven' t spanked either of my kids in close to two years. My son is too old for it now, and i don't know that i'll ever spank my daughter as i haven't yet.

We always use other forms of punishment first. including cutting off fingers, heads, etc.

we are big proponents of time out. loss of priveleges and the like.

 

[Francesca_Bee]

Can't everyone agree to disagree?

The digs that are continually being made seem tedious.

Are we circling much?
Everyone agrees that hitting/slapping/spanking a child with severe force is not on?
People use this method at an extreme when they consider it necessary i.e child is not responding to any other form of communication?
Nobody in this thread is an abuser?

I'm doing good Digger, thanks for asking

 

[kibbleforlola]

I think spanking is fine as long as it's done by me and the receiver is a sexy guitar player and he has a sexy little bum that looks perfect in cargo shorts.