Had something similar happen to me
I guess I looked angry because the sun hurt my eyes
No one smiles 24-7 anyway. Weird.
How to deal with "why are you so quiet?" questions
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Had something similar happen to me
I guess I looked angry because the sun hurt my eyes
No one smiles 24-7 anyway. Weird.
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"I only talk when I have something meaningful to say to someone."
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I like that one
Minds me (a little) of a story I read from buddhism ...
Jist being that this important personage was granted audience to meet the buddha and ask questions. Buddha did not reply to any of his questions.
Ananda (buddha's assistant) asked "why did you ignore that man? Buddha replies to the effect of "I wasn't ignoring him. I was just waiting for him to ask the right question(s) then he just upped and walked away!"
I'm not particularly quiet and can talk the hind legs off a donkey, but my voice is naturally quiet. So when asked this my reaction usually is "I'm not quiet, youre just really ******* loud". alternatively, when I am actaully being quiet "I just like like listening" seems to be an acceptable response.
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I have the opposite problem, of being too loud. Yesterday when I was at the pet store i was asking for worming pills and de-fleaing liquids and had to ask advice on the various types and say things like "No, that pill doesnt have all the worms. I want ALL the worms."
And the woman next to me was glaring at me but I have sensory processing problems and find it hard to control the volume of my voice so I am either silent or loud. But I thought, oh well. Not something i can really help.
And the woman next to me was glaring at me but I have sensory processing problems and find it hard to control the volume of my voice so I am either silent or loud. But I thought, oh well. Not something i can really help.
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Another one is, "Oh trust me, you do NOT want to know what I have to say about anything!"
(Which is true, right?)
(Which is true, right?)
I get this quite a bit too, both because my voice is quiet and because unless I know you well, I probably won't be talking non stop. It's frustrating, especially once people decide to label you as shy as so many people then feel the need to keep pointing that out as though you're a child. Oh, are you shy? You don't need to be shy around us! It's okay, we won't bite. Grrr. I might though
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LOL Katrina you should become my friend you will never have a problem. I get uncomfortable when conversations go quite, so I just talk all the time... AND YES I would be asking you a 100 questions - just so you can talk. I guess that is why I have a lot of introvert friends. OR they will ask me : why do you talk so much and then avoid asking you why you are so quite.
I guess I never ask someone why they are so quite but I get intrigued by them and then want to start a conversation.
Oh dear, I am probably a person you avoid
I guess I never ask someone why they are so quite but I get intrigued by them and then want to start a conversation.
Oh dear, I am probably a person you avoid
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You could always laugh and be like "quiet? I've never gotten that before! I guess compared to some people, anyone seems quiet!"
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Haha. I don't care if someone talks a lot or asks me questions. It's just irritating when someone has made no attempt to talk to me then they complain that I'm quiet. It's like if you want me to talk, ask me some questions then! Once the right topic is hit, I can go on for a while.
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Anyway, I went to the event yesterday and nobody bothered me about me being quiet! It was a nice surprise. Whew! Now I'll refer to this thread next time I have to go to a group thing.
I have the opposite problem. I have been a chatty Kathy since I was a kid, and I have a loud voice, probably because of my large family and everyone trying to be heard . But I'm not one who has to have every minute filled with conversation. Silence can be a good thing now and again. Sometimes (it's rare), I actually don't have anything to say. I am better at using my "inside" voice now than when I was younger . It's an effort, though. Old habits die hard.
. But I'm not one who has to have every minute filled with conversation. Silence can be a good thing now and again. Sometimes (it's rare), I actually don't have anything to say. I am better at using my "inside" voice now than when I was younger . It's an effort, though. Old habits die hard.
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Simply, "I don't have anything to say"
Short and to the point. Then there was my grandpa's saying, "Keep your mouth shut and people will think you're dumb. Open it up and you'll prove it".
Short and to the point. Then there was my grandpa's saying, "Keep your mouth shut and people will think you're dumb. Open it up and you'll prove it".
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I have the opposite problem. I have been a chatty Kathy since I was a kid, and I have a loud voice, probably because of my large family and everyone trying to be heard
Large family. Large loud voice. Are you Italian by any chance?
Lol, nope, Irish.Large family. Large loud voice. Are you Italian by any chance?
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